This book didn’t just talk about forgiveness—it made me feel it in a way I hadn’t before. It met me exactly where I was, not forcing an easy resolution but gently guiding me through the complicated emotions I’ve carried for years. The honesty in its approach was what stood out most—no sugarcoating, no clichés, just a real, compassionate conversation about what it means to let go.What I appreciated most was how it balanced understanding and accountability. It validated the pain of the past without insisting that forgiveness means forgetting. Instead, it offered a way forward that felt like a gift to myself rather than something I was doing for anyone else. The practical exercises were a game-changer, making the concepts more than just words on a page.By the time I finished, I felt lighter—not because everything was magically resolved, but because I had new tools to stop letting old wounds dictate my present. If you’ve ever struggled with resentment, this book provides a path—not easy, not instant, but real and freeing.

I wasn't really expecting to like this book. The cover didn't grab me, and as a therapist, I'm dubious about books written about relationships that aren't written by professionals. BUT, I absolutely loved this book!! In fact, I'm thinking about buying it for both of my young adult sons. Basically the author gives 14 "rules" for having a happy relationship. Of course, you could find an entire book on any one of these rules, if you want to delve further into conflict, communication, or whatever. But honestly, I can't think of anything I would want a client to know about healthy relationships that ISN'T in this book! If you want a great, concise, easy to read book about the fundamental building blocks of having a successful and loving relationship, this is your book.

Over my 30-year career in government jobs (in the USAF, Veterans Hospital, and FDA) I learned an unsettling work reality: those that do poorly are “punished” with being given less work [people don’t want to depend upon or work with them] while those that have a reputation for doing good work are “rewarded” by being given yet more work. While this keeps us good workers very busy, it can quickly become overwhelming. Of necessity, I learned a number of tactics to cope with the escalating duties, many of which are very clearly laid out in this excellent book. What’s proposed here is truly effective. Plus, the points are proposed very realistically: noting the positives and negatives of various strategies plus their being options not necessarily applicable to all situations. The good news is that it is possible to fight back against the overwhelming tide of work to create a healthy balance in one’s life without necessarily being fired or overly offending one’s coworkers. I particularly liked the sections here on the following topics: how to tactfully say “no”; how to create and maintain healthy boundaries; what it really means to “work smarter”; the prioritization matrix for determining whether to “do, delegate, decide, or delete”; and the three key questions to answer before agreeing to a particular task. For anyone wanting to sort through their internal motivations for taking on extra work, this short book is a real eye-opener. Highly recommended!